Fearne Cotton has spoken candidly on the need of emotional independence, admitting that in her thirties, she “was too quick to reach for help.”
The podcast presenter and broadcaster has previously discussed her difficulties with anxiety, but in a recent interview, she said that she is now better able to handle things on her own.
Fearne Cotton cited a Happy Place podcast conversation with Jada Pinkett Smith in which the star discussed emotional independence.
Fearne Cotton told Metro, “At the time, I didn’t know what she meant. But I totally get it now.
“I was too quick to reach for help” when I was in my thirties, she continued.
“Reaching out for help is amazing and integral at times but I got to the point when faced with any problem, I would feel I had to ring or text someone and needed for someone to tell me what to do. I rarely figured out problems on my own or sat with my feelings.”
“As I’ve got older, I am now able to pause, step back and ask myself – does this really matter? If it does matter, I ask myself, why does it matter? What are the feelings that are coming up, but now I’m able to sort things out a little more easily on my own,” She added.
The conversation, according to Fearne Cotton, was one of the most important life lessons she had ever heard from a podcast guest.
In 2007, the 41-year-old became the first regular female host of the Radio 1 Chart Show. In 2018, she started hosting her Happy Place podcast, which has featured guests such as Hillary Clinton, Tom Daley, and Dawn French.
She did, however, disclose in 2021 that she had to leave the BBC because of her issues with her mental health.
“I had to walk away because it was literally ruining my mind,” Cotton told Red Magazine in 2021.
“A lot of people still believe in this myth that people on TV or social media are these perfect people with perfect lives, and, of course, it’s all a load of b*******.”
Fame, Fearne Cotton said, frequently serves as a barrier between a person and “real life.”
“It doesn’t matter what my job is. It doesn’t matter how many followers I have. Let’s just connect on the most human level, because all fame does is create distance between you and real life. I don’t want to be disconnected from real life. I want to be in the thick of it,” she added.